Search for Happiness 24/7 | RandomShaye

Due to some recent drama, stress, and anxiety I haven't quite been feeling my absolute best.

I would class myself as a pretty happy person, but although I am happy now, I'm not nearly as happy as I was about 2 years ago.

About 3 years ago I started going to public school vs my previously being home-schooled. Now with public school comes new friends, clubs, school work and lots of drama and stress. Although I love my friends and my school, I do feel that my positivity level has changed.

With school not being the only thing in my life that can be hectic, I find my self not always being very positive and just not as happy as I could be. Therefore I decided to do some research and get inspired to make a few changes.

Now I did a previous blog with a similar tone, that had a list of things that I was going to change, but I wasn't very successful. Therefore I decide to re-assess my goals, priorities and willingness for a, hopefully, more successful outcome.

So here are a few things that my personal experience and research proves to make one's day and mindset positive and happy.

1, Exercise
          When one exercises, endorphins are released in the brain, which is a natural happy chemical. Apart from scientifically making one happier, exercising is a great way to clear your head and get in shape.

2. Healthy Eating
         Similarly to exercise, when your body feels good physically, it also feels good mentally.

3.One Step At A Time
       Having anxiety is never a good thing. There's no point in constantly focusing on the future because you miss the present. Therefore when I start flipping out about college, I need to chill, because I'm only missing out on enjoying high school.

4, Have a Cuppa and unplug
        Now although tea has alot good antibiotics and awesome things in it, the simple action of making a cup of tea and sipping it is quite relaxing. I normally drink alot of tea, but I'm going to try to start making it more of an event. At least one cup of tea I have thoughout the day, I'm going to make then go outside put all my electronics away and enjoy. Reflect on the day and escape the nonsense that social media can create.

5. Keep Dreaming
      Although I'm trying not to stress about the future, I do think its a good idea to set goals and have dreams for yourself. Along with having these dreams, also have the mind set that everyone else's opinions don't matter, in the end it's your life.

6. Be Quiet
      Although we're are all guilty of gossiping, it really does have a big impact on our life and mood. Although it's good to talk and vent, constant gossip just creates more negative vibes in our life.

7. Sleep
      Alot of stress is caused from being overwhelmed. It is definitely easier to deal with issues and drama when your in a healthy state of being awake. And sleep is great!

8. Read or Watch a Film
       Being a part of someone else's story is a great way to think about what you want in your life. It can also be a great little escape into a beautiful romance or fantastical world.

9. Breathe
    It's a simple thing, but breathing is glorious. Taking a step back and calming down is a great way to not freak out.

10. Smile
       Having positive thoughts and making other people smile is the greatest way to have a happy life filled with positive outcomes.


So that's my list. I'm definitely going to start focusing on what I want and " practicing what I preach".

Well I hope you've enjoyed this post, but I have to go to bed now or I might just fall asleep while typing. But I hope you've enjoyed and until next time, Stay Random.

-Shaye

Everything Happens for a Reason | RandomShaye

With highschool graduation right around the corner, and college fast approaching, life hits you in the face and it all becomes real.

Since the sixth grade I had ,or I thought I had, my life after highschool all planned out.

I would attend a well regaurded University, such as Princeton or Havard, then while studying start to network in the entertaiment industry and BAM!
 I would become a succesful actress/ lawyer who would have her own talk show as well creating a charitable organization that bettered the world in some way.

But if I were to tell my counselors that they'd laugh in my face. And apart from that, my views have changed a bit.

Yes, I still want to be an actress and work in the "entertainment industry", I would still like to go to law school(believe it or not) and I will always want to make a positive make on the world, but I now understand that it isn't that easy.

Princeton  is never going to happen because I'm from the south, never stepped foot in a private school, and the highest I've gotten on my ACT is a 26.

Now not being able to go to Princeton isn't that big of a deal, there are other schools,but in general I get an overwhelming feeling when I think about life after highschool. Although, I will contiue strive to achieve my goals no matter what, I always have that fear that nothing will ever pan out and I'm going to fail.

What if I don't major in the right thing? What if I can never land a job in the industry? What if I don't get into law school? How can I work in the industry and go to law school? Why can't I pick one career like a normal person?

But then I stop and think about what my parents have told me for ages...

EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

 Although, thousands upon thousands of positive and negative things happen to us in our lifetime, I do believe that all happen for a reason, even if it is negative. Throughout my mere 18 years of life, I have experienced a lot; at least I think I have. Although there are others in the world that have had more tragic experiences or have seen more success in life; I would never change anything that has happened to me. My past, every waking second, good or bad, has shaped who I am today. I know that 10 years I will probably be different,but the reason I grow and change is because of the things that has happened in my life.

A good, although cliché, example is the fact that my life and my family’s life was affected by hurricane Katrina. At the time all I wished for was for things to go back to normal. To have my house, my school, my friends back.

It was hard being uprooted at the age of 10 from everything I’ve ever known. I had to move to a new city, new state, and new school. My life started over. It was hard, no doubt, but looking back I’m oddly grateful Katrina hit my hometown.

There was a significant amount of tragedy and hardships, but without it I would have never left this town. Being forced to move, and loosing everything gave me a new appreciation for my life, the world around me, and what’s valuable to me.

 Therefore without that happening who knows who or where I’d be. The point being, that I do believe everything happens for a reason.

At first it might not be clear why, but in the end a person is the sum of their experiences.

 

Therefore, no matter what happens after highschool, it'll be ok. In the end veything will sort it self out.

 

Well I guess that's enough for this angsty, senior rant. I know I haven't written in a while, but senior year has been,like I said,overwhelming.

I am going to try to start writing more, and hopefully about non-school realated things. I'm going to try to start writing about other topics, but hopefully me sharing my "Senior Year" thoughts help.  I feel like I'm not alone on this one, I think alot of seniors struggle with "life after high school" so  if you've stumbled upon this blog, hopefully it's been helpful.

If you want to see more of my thoughts, views, and complete randomness about life checkout my YouTube Channel at www.youtube.com/randomnessofshaye

 

And until nextime, Stay Random

                                       -Shaye

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

it just hurt sometimes | Original Poem by Shaye Patton



 

 

it just hurts sometimes

 

 

i've tried so hard

to be there

for You

i've tried so hard

to understand

for You

 

it was just us

no Her

no Them

then it was gone

 

You've surpassed me

sociably

academically

even through love

 

although i'm proud

more proud then,

ever imaginable

more proud then,

ever understandable

 

but, it just hurts sometimes.

 

i've tried so hard

to be there

for You

i've tried so hard

to understand

for You

 

yet, You won't talk

to me

You won't let

me in

 

but, it just hurts sometimes.

 

i know i'm behind

sociably

academically

and through love

 

but, I am still here

for you

I will always be here

for you

 

so, it just hurts sometimes.

 

when You won't talk

to me

You won't let

me in

 

 

 

 

Your Eyes | Original Poem by Shaye Patton

 

 

 

Your Eyes

 

 

 

 

I long for that glance

a look

one moment with no words

just

your eyes

 

 

your eyes

telling a story

the way they light up

like a million stars

 

 

I could stare in their deep color

endlessly

with glints of laughter,

passion,

sadness

 

your eyes

The Struggle is Real | Trying to Balance Life | RandomnessOfShaye

How does Beyonce do it?

She is truely a goddess, an angle sent from above with the power to be Fierce, Fabulous and Successful with the same 24 hours a day I have. See I have the same hopes and dreams as any 18 year old girl to be as AH-MAZING as Beyonce, but quite frankly I can't figure out how she does it.

I currently have alot going on in my life right now:
School
Family
Friends
Netflix
Fitness
Dance
Extra Cirricuculars
Nutella Consumption
This Blog
YouTube
Sleep

As you can see they are all equally as important and awesome!

So recently, as in the past 2 weeks, I've struggled to do everything I need to do. Mainly involving my YouTube channel.

Now my channel is pretty much my baby, currently it's the type of baby that cries alot and isn't potty trained yet. And although that was a really bad comparison, it's kind of true.

I LOVE to make videos, but I hate editing(and I'm really bad at it too), therefore I tend to record videos, but never upload any. On top of that my camera is P-O-O-P! So I've been recently just using my webcam, which is only slightly better quality. AND on top of ALL that, I feel like I never have time!

Now at this point you're probably thinking," Like OMG stahp complaining, if you don't like it don't do it!!!"

But, think again!

See I'm writing about all the bad things so they can be fixed.

I tend to talk alot about what I want to do and how I'm going to do it, but I feel like although I put forth some effort, it's never enough.

So after watching, the very inspiring Disney Film, 'The Princess&The Frog'  I've realized I need to work harder. Tiana didn't get her restaurant by just wishing she had one, but by working for it.

Which is why I am going to start working to organize my life in a healthy balance where I have time for both YouTube and Friday Night Football games with my friends. I've also to put all the money I saved this summer towards a new Camera, instead of shoes.

I think that sometimes we all need to take a step back and look at how we manage our time. Although Netflix is lovely, getting outside and going for a jog can be just as nice.

So this week I challenge you to take a look at your life. Is there anything you want to focus on more? Anything you should not spend so much time on?

With that moment of self-reflection, I'm going to sign off because I'm actually in Computer Class right now.

Until next time, Stay Random!!!
                - Shaye

P.S

Update on last weeks "Little Changes":
I've been sleeping more, but on on the weekends. As for everything else... I'm just going to restart them. I kind of failed. ;)

21 Days of New Habits | RandomnessOfShaye

When I woke up this morning I had all the intentions to blog about school, and how so far senior year is starting to look up for me. Turns out that stepping out of my comfort zone has presented me with alot of great opportunities. Although it would make a pretty good blog post, I think it would make an even better YouTube video. Which is why I'll be recording that tomorrow afternoon.

At this point, I was pretty stoked that I had a video idea for this week, I was also bummed because I was now at a lost for a blog idea. Until I thought about school.

See in exactly one month I will have to participate in my school's Senior Ring Day Ceremony and in one month and two weeks I will be attending my senior homecoming dance.  Although these are both really exciting, I have one small problem.  Currently I am currently not feeling my absolute best on the whole "Confidence Spectrum" of things.

See, I'm currently a bit chubby in the middle. Now, before you start going on some crazy rant about "body confidence and loving who you are". CHILL. I'm not calling myself fat or saying that I hate my body, all I'm saying is I want to be a bit fitter.

Now, for the most part I try to lead a fairly healthy lifestyle. I eat decently(but I am guilty to eating a bit too much of nutella and french bread), I exercise regularly and I attempt to listen to my body when rest is needed. To be honest these things have showed positive results for my body. Just in the past month I lost five pounds, but I also feel that I could do a bit better.

I'm not looking for some crash diet to partake in before homecoming, but simply to create some new, better habits for myself. Given the fact that research says that it takes 21 days to form a habit, I should be well set before my schools formal.

Therefore here are a few small changes that I'm going to try to make everyday:

1) Stretch/ Yoga for at least 30 min. ( I am a dancer and honestly it'll not only help my performance but will prevent injury)

2) Keep track of water intake (I normally only drink water but I do feel that sometimes I drink WAY too much or WAY too little, So i'd like to regulate that)

3) Go to bed an hour earlier ( I need more beauty rest)

4) Eat more fruit&veggies, less bread ( Like most, I LOVE bread and although I LOVE fruit too, I don't think I eat nearly enough)

5) Read More ( although I love the internet I do think it's really helpful to relax without social media and just snuggle with a good book)

6) Dink more tea ( tea makes everything better)

So with these few habits, I think that by the time Homecoming rolls around I will not only be Fitter, Healthier but also Happier. And honestly just the best Me I can be. 

So with that I encourage you to try to make little changes in your day that will lead you to a better YOU!

Until next time, Stay Random

Shaye

Lovin' Life | RandomnessOfShaye

Ever have those lovely moments of perfect clarity when you realize how wonderful life is?

Well I had one of those moments this weekend. Honestly, all weekend.

This weekend started Friday with my high-school's first football game of the season. I arrived early to help paint some of the guy's chest with our school's color and some of the football player's names. At first I was pretty nervous because I kinda get really shy sometimes and I didn't want to be aco-taco in front of a bunch of handsome shirtless guys! To my surprise, I actually was pretty fabulous( if I do say so myself)!!! I wasn't shy or awkward AND I actually got to paint this super gorgeous guy and I even had a lovely chat with him. I guess you could say I blossomed, came out of my shell, transformed into a social butterfly!

oh. and my highschool actually won the football game. Which NEVER happens!

As for Saturday. Well I didn't do much except have a nice little cuddle with my dogs because I didn't quite feel well.

On the bright side my dad, who's work requires him to be on the road for 2 weeks at a time, was able to come home this weekend. So he arrived on Saturday night so that was lovely, because I really miss him when he's away.

Sunday was quite lovely. The day consisted of my family, my pool, a good book, and BBQ. It was the first day in about a week where it wasn't extremely hot out and wasn't raining. So the weather was perfect, at least according to Louisiana standards.

Today. Well first of all it's Monday and I don't have school! So that's awesome!

Pretty much today has been a day of tiding, hanging with the fambam and catching up on my internet duties(making videos,blogging, and watching British YouTubers).

For the most part the weekend has been pretty chill, nothing that exciting, but I think that's why it made me so happy. I just love the fact, that normally when I am happiest it's in the moments that are just averagely beautiful. Spending time with family, reading a good book, or just watching YouTube videos.

I suppose that it truly is the little things that are most important.

With that, I leave you with some pictures from my weekend :)


Until next time, stay random
                     Shaye

me and my mum before the football game

some of my friends

the game

I didn't mention my friend's and I new obsession was the new avatar app, but my bestie Maddie made this of  us. I have the flower crown, Maddie has Pikachu

Majestic photo of a float in my pool

my pool

dad BBQing 

The really good book I was reading. Super cute, fun read

another majestic picture of my pool

THE END ;)